Supporting Young People to Thrive: Tips for Parents/Caregivers
Being a young person in today’s world can be hard. Adolescence is a period of self-discovery, but also change, growth, and challenges, often leaving young people feeling overwhelmed and misunderstood. The school year adds another layer of complexity, with academic pressures, social dynamics, and the ongoing exploration of identity. It can be a lot to navigate.
But adolescence is also a time of incredible potential. It's a period of discovering passions, developing resilience, and forging a strong sense of self. While the teenage years can be turbulent, they are also a time of tremendous growth and opportunity. By offering understanding, guidance, and unwavering support, we can help young people thrive, discover their passions, and build a strong sense of self.
Here’s how you can support the young people in your life through this transformative time:
Keep the Conversation Open
Ask open-ended questions: Instead of "How was your day?", try "What’s something interesting that happened today?" or "What's on your mind?"
Listen actively: Truly hear them out without interrupting or rushing to solutions. Put down your phone and make eye contact.
Validate their emotions: Acknowledge their feelings, even if you don't fully understand them. Let them know you see and hear them. Try phrases like, "It sounds like you’re feeling frustrated," "I hear what you're saying about feeling overwhelmed”, “That sounds tough”, or "It's okay to feel angry or sad about this.”
Encourage Healthy Habits (A healthy lifestyle supports both physical and mental well-being).
Prioritise sleep: Young people need 8-10 hours of quality sleep per night to function at their best. A consistent sleep schedule is important.
Promote nutritious meals: Encourage balanced meals and healthy snacks to fuel their body and minds. Limit processed foods and sugary drinks.
Support daily movement: Whether it’s a sport, a walk around the local park, or yoga, physical activity can help reduce stress. Find activities they enjoy.
Set screen time limits: Especially before bed, to promote better sleep and reduce anxiety. Consider "tech-free" times for the whole family.
Support Their Education and Learning Journey
Create a study sanctuary: A quiet, organised space free of distractions can work wonders for focus. Help them personalise their study area.
Teach time management skills: Help them break down tasks and use planners or apps. Prioritising and planning are essential skills.
Celebrate achievements: Acknowledge both big and small wins to build their confidence. Focus on effort and progress, not just academic results.
Build Emotional Resilience
Encourage problem-solving: Guide them to brainstorm and find solutions rather than solving problems or fixing things for them. Ask them questions like, "What are some things you could try?"
Practice mindfulness: Explore techniques like deep breathing, journalling, or meditation together. There are many apps and resources available.
Model healthy coping: Let them see you handle stress in constructive ways. Talk to them about how you manage stress.
Support Social Connections
Encourage participation: Suggest clubs or activities where they can connect with others who share their interests.
Discuss healthy boundaries: Help them identify and nurture positive relationships. Talk about respect and communication.
Guide responsible social media use: Talk openly about cyberbullying, online safety, and the impact of social media on mental health.
Recognise When to Seek Help
Watch for warning signs: Persistent mood changes, social withdrawal, declining academic performance, changes in eating or sleeping habits, or talk of self-injury could signal a need for professional support.
Reach out to resources: School psychologists, counsellors, and therapists can provide valuable guidance and support. Your pediatrician or GP can also be a good starting point.
Meet Them Where They Are (Every young person is unique).
Take the time to understand their individual needs, interests, and challenges.
Stay curious.
Avoid judgment and offer unconditional support as they navigate this phase of life.
Accept them as they are.
Don’t Forget Your Well-Being
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make sure you’re taking care of your own mental and emotional health by getting enough sleep and rest, eating well, and engaging in activities that recharge you. A calm and grounded parent or caregiver provides a strong foundation for a thriving teen.
~ Handle With Care ~
Remember, adolescence is a delicate and transformative time. Approach your young person with empathy, patience, and an open heart. Your presence, support, and love can make a world of difference. Let them know you see them, hear them, and value them for who they are.
By fostering open communication, providing a safe and encouraging environment, and meeting them where they are, you can empower the young people in your life to face challenges with confidence and resilience.
